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the Gottman method

Proven methods to build stronger, lasting connections

GOTTMAN INSTITUTE
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Globally Recognized, research driven

The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to couples therapy developed by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman. Grounded in decades of research on what helps relationships succeed, this approach provides practical tools to strengthen friendship, improve communication, manage conflict, and deepen emotional connection.

Using structured interventions and evidence-based strategies, couples learn how to better understand one another, navigate challenges more effectively, and build a relationship founded on trust, respect, and shared meaning. The Gottman Method helps couples move out of negative patterns and create lasting change by focusing on both the strengths of the relationship and areas for growth.

Whether couples are seeking to enhance an already strong relationship or work through ongoing challenges, the Gottman Method offers a clear path toward greater connection, resilience, and lasting partnership.

Diagram of a house representing a sound relationship house for a healthy partnership. The house includes sections labeled: Create Shared Meaning, Make Life Dreams Come True, Manage Conflict, The Positive Perspective, Turn Towards Instead of Away, Share Fondness and Admiration, Build Love Maps. The house has a “Trust” pillar on the left and a “Commitment” pillar on the right.

Method in practice

The Gottman Method is built upon the Sound Relationship House (SRH) Theory, a research-based framework that identifies the key components of healthy, lasting relationships. Much like a house requires a strong foundation to remain stable, relationships thrive when couples intentionally strengthen specific areas of connection over time.

Rather than focusing solely on problems, the Gottman Method helps couples build the skills and foundation necessary for a resilient, connected, and fulfilling relationship. By strengthening each level of the Sound Relationship House, couples can create lasting change and a stronger partnership for the future.

  • The Sound Relationship House serves as a roadmap for treatment. Through assessment and ongoing conversations, strengths and areas for growth are identified within each level of the house. Together, we develop a personalized treatment plan that targets the specific needs of your relationship, whether that involves improving communication, rebuilding trust, increasing emotional connection, navigating conflict, or strengthening friendship and intimacy

  • The intake process has three basic phases

    1. Oral History Interview

      During this joint initial session, we review your relationship history, presenting concerns, and observable conflict style.

    2. Individual Sessions

      Each partner will meet with therapist individually to "deep dive" into your personal world, allowing you to speak freely to explore personal history, concerns, and expectations as it relates to the therapeutic process.

    3. Treatment Plan

      We reconvene as a trio for a session to synthesize everything learned from the joint history and your individual deep dives. Think of this as the "reveal" where we look at the architecture of your relationship through the lens of the Sound Relationship House.


  • Each partner will be asked to complete an assessment through Gottman Connect prior to their individual session with the therapist. The information is used to further explore each person’s unique experiences and point of view which contributes to the treatment plan. Additional information regarding completion will be provided during intake.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • The Gottman Method is a world renowned methodology for couples therapy rooted in decades of research which is ongoing to this day. Thousands of couples have made amazing strides in their relationships through the tools found in the Gottman Method.

    https://www.gottman.com/couples/

  • In order to become a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT) therapists must complete a rigorous slate of trainings, and demonstrate proficiency of the Gottman Method. It is considered to be recognition as an expert in the field of couples counseling.

    Required training includes: Levels 1-3, Treating Affairs & Trauma, Couples & Addiction Recovery, Therapy for Partner Aggression and Abuse, and completion of Certification Track.

    https://www.gottman.com/professionals/training/certification/

  • What sets my practice apart is the combination of specialized Gottman Method training and a deep commitment to understanding each couple's unique story. I believe that meaningful change happens when research-based tools are paired with empathy, insight, and a strong therapeutic relationship. My goal is to help couples feel both supported and challenged as they work toward greater connection, trust, and resilience.

  • You can reach me anytime via our contact page or email. We aim to respond quickly—usually within one business day.

  • Each couple’s journey is different. The frequency of sessions is determined conjointly between the couple and therapist during the intake process. Couples can typically expect to meet either once a week or once every other week for 1 clinical hour at a time.